We have the right to be whoever we want to be. There is no rule dictating the way we should be. Working in the healing field I’m often fascinated by how guilty people feel if they don’t regularly meditate, are inconsistent in their yoga practice, or forget to do their self Reiki when they really could have used it.
At times it seems like people have an extensive internal checklist, fundamentally unachievable, which if they do not meet means they can’t really be called mindful. I do it myself. I say, I’m not really like a lot of Reiki teachers, because I do it a different way, I don’t do Reiki all day long, sometimes I use other modalities and blah, blah, blah….
I think this is a common mentality, that I’m not doing it right or I should spend more time doing ‘x’ or I’ve got some work to do and then I will be good enough.
This puts life on hold, off in the future, someplace.
What if you are fine the way you are now? What if, this is the way you are meant to be? And what if you can be as mindful as you want or don’t want, and that is completely fine?
I like the idea that we can design our own life, that we can integrate mindfulness by allowing it to flow into a variety of aspects of our life. Who says that when we are down the pub with friends, or watching the kids at a soccer match, or vegging out in front of the tv that we are not being mindful?
To categorize things is a very western approach, so if we with look at life through the lens of a more eastern approach we see that each moment flows into the next, that mindfulness is just about taking notice.
You can take notice as little or as much as you want, and taking notice of yourself not taking notice is exercising mindfulness, as well!
Play with the design of your life. Look at the unexpected places where you can simply bring a presence, a simple curiosity to your life. You might find that mindfulness can be fluid and fun, and incorporated in unexpected ways.