For many of us who have done a lot of personal excavation and transformation, we are used to the feeling of being blocked, of people, ourselves or others, objecting to us being are true selves.
But what happens when the obstacles have been removed, when nothing stands between you and what you dream of doing?
Does this freak you out? Do you backtrack, preferring the old dysfunctional pattern? Do you crave the old pattern because it is familiar and the new opportunity is unfamiliar which is way too scary?
The visceral experience of hitting up against resistance from your mother, father, brother, aunt, boss, husband, children etc. is sometimes the grist that the mill needs to keep on running. Resistance from others is the thing that we “blame” for our lack of forward progress but in reality often it is us. We are the ones creating the obstacles, and, in fact, sometimes we quite like to have some resistance to keep us moving forward but never quite achieving our goals.
We tell ourselves, “One day when I have this sorted out, when so-and-so stops being such bitch and getting in my way, then I will be able to do what I want!”
But there are times in our life where the personal excavation pays off! We have come to peace with many aspects of our history, we have worked out a healthy plan of action for ourselves in our relationships and our life, at least for the moment. There are no obstacles.
Guess what happens now? We freak out! There is no resistance, there is nothing to butt up against, and no one to “prove” ourselves to.
There is only us, who we are, and what we want. Nothing standing in our way. Yikes!
Instead of freaking out, what should you do?
My advice – Keep walking forward one step at a time despite the quivering knees! It’s time to be present and learn a new habit, a habit of self motivating and of realizing that achieving your dreams has only ever been for you. Can you accept this?